Friday, April 22, 2011

What we've learned

The past 6 weeks an interesting, learning experience.

Today we met Kay, Sam's mom, for the first time. It was nice to meet her and be able to talk to her. I wanted to get a picture of her and Emma, but she said no, so I respect that. I have some pictures Sam gave me of her and Emma, but the quality of pic is bad.

Brad and I have reflected what we've learned and gone through the past 6 weeks. We wouldn't change any of it, even the horrible stuff. We're both willing to have another open adoption through Foster Care. Now our boundaries are:
1)Social Network friends, share pictures and status updates about the kids
2) Maybe visits at public places, or anywhere but our home
3) Never give them our address

Now if it were an adoption through an agency or private, it might be different. I don't know, I'm not in that situation yet.

2 comments:

LesA said...

Your last 6 weeks have been a worry for me. you and your husband showed far more restraint than I think I would be able to.

Kate said...

Oh my gosh, sounds like Sam comes from a family of liars. I can't imagine how you feel! You seem to have the patience of a saint. I don't know what I would do if I were in your shoes, but I'm guessing I probably would have lost my mind!

I can however imagine why you would have boundries like that for future adoptions! If you were to do a "domestic adoption" (I think that's what it's called!) would you keep the same boundries?

I only ask because from the people I know and the blogs that I read, people seem to really appreciate having a very open adoption. I've never known anyone to do foster to adoption, so I'm just curious!

(I hope none of that comes across as rude, because that's certainly not my intent! My cousin was actually adopted. I suppose that's what peaked my interest in adoption. His is a closed adoption, his parents left him on the side of the highway when he was two years old, he didn't even know his last name!)