Friday, October 5, 2012

Follow Up Questions:

What about Emma’s brother? Well, Samantha is planning on raising him. Enough said on that topic…

What if she does die? I have no idea what will happen… A little more background info- Before her oldest two were brought into foster care Sam’s mom (Kay) was taking care of them. Kay claims DCFS told her she would be able to get them in foster care, but was later denied. She called DCFS to have them removed from Sam to try to scare her straight. The story I have heard from Sam’s step-mom (the honest one in the bunch) is that Kay was taking care of the kids, couldn’t handle it and called DCFS to come get them from her and had no intention of getting them back. I am worried of what she will do if left the guardian of this baby. Probably the same thing she did with Ethan and Avery! :/

I do 100% plan on keeping in contact with Samantha’s (and Will’s) families. I rather enjoy talking to and spending time with Sam’s dad and step-mom.

What about Will? I am not in contact with him at all. I have tried, he isn’t interested! I’m not pushing it. He knows how to get in touch if he ever does want contact with his daughter, that’s all I can do.

Now, don’t be afraid to ask or think you are sounding rude, Do I believe her? Ha, ha, ha. Let me take you back to June of this year… I took Samantha out to lunch (I also might add this was a few hours before my cousin’s funeral and I was extremely emotional!) and told her, if I caught her in 1 more lie, I don’t care if that lie is “The sky is red.”, I am DONE. At that same lunch she lied to me about having a job, whatever. I asked her what her plans were for providing for this baby. “I am going to get a better job and get my own place!” 3 DAYS later… she text me saying she is starting school the next day to become a medical assistant. Whoa, where did that come from? In 3 days she decided to go to college, registered and paid for it? Seriously? I’m sure some people are thinking, well, maybe she already had but didn’t tell you. It has been confirmed that it was a lie. The nice person that I am, I did not end contact with her, I just don’t trust a thing she says.

The day after she called and told me she has Hep C her step-mom came over and we all went to breakfast. The first thing I asked her was, “Does she really have Hep C? Is she really pregnant?” She said as far as she and Sam’s dad can tell she really does. And she really is pregnant. Yes, she took a pregnancy test in front of me, but has had some crazy, dramatic stories since then…

The one part of the story I doubt (if you know the honest answer here, please feel free to comment). She claims Baby Boy is due Feb. 2. After being diagnosed with Hep C they (the hospital??) decided to do her C-section the week before Christmas. I asked her, Why. So they can get him out and get her on treatments sooner. But would they really take him out 6 weeks early? Next question, which I do NOT believe. She says they are giving her shots to help develop the baby’s lungs. Um, 3MONTHS early??? Do they do that? When she told me I flat out said, “Whatever!” Now, I love her, I really do, but there is a huge difference in love and trust. I mentioned the shots to my mother-in-law who is an RN and she said, they would NOT be doing that. I’m not totally naive on the topic either, my sister had 2 babies 6 weeks early and had a total of 3 weeks in the NICU with them. With her third, when she went into labor 7 weeks early they stopped her contractions and did give her shots to develop his lungs. One of my friends was constantly in premature labor, her doctor said once she was 4 weeks away they would let the baby come, but 6 weeks was too early! I don’t get why they would A) give the shots to her 3 months in advance and B) take him out 6 weeks early.

2 comments:

Darla said...

Thank you for sharing. We've just begun the adoption/foster-care process and it is encouraging that you are so honest about your journey. I expect roses and rain but its not a journey to be done alone.

Darla said...

Thank you for sharing. We've just begun the adoption/foster-care process and it is encouraging that you are so honest about your journey. I expect roses and rain but its not a journey to be done alone.