Tuesday, January 26, 2010

How to Comfort an Infertile Couple

(link to article here)

Most couples want to have children. When they discover they have infertility problems, the couple often experiences an array of emotions. Helping an infertile couple cope with this situation is a delicate affair. Any close friend or family member can help by offering patience and support.

  • Recognize common emotions or experiences in your infertile friend. During testing for infertility, many feel uncomfortable, guilty, fearful, angry, shameful, out-of-control and numb. Some tend to disassociate themselves from family and friends as a result of their difficulties and emotions.
  • Learn about infertility causes, treatments and how to cope in order to be knowledgeable and support for your friends. Knowing what your friend has to deal with helps you be more empathetic.
  • Encourage your friend to talk to you about his feelings. Also be sure to encourage him to keep the communication lines open with his partner.
  • Allow your friend to unload her fears and other emotions regularly, and help her to cut down on stress by encouraging her to do activities she likes. Take your friend to dinner, movie or spa, or give her a gift certificate to a restaurant to enjoy a stress-free dinner with her partner.
  • Offer your friend contact information to infertility counselors or support groups trained to listen to infertility suffers. Fertilitylifelines has individuals available to help couples cope. Offer this information as additional help and not as replacement for your support.

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