tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987252314457926314.post3742000963606031171..comments2023-04-27T04:39:45.022-07:00Comments on Foster Adopt: Name Change…DMNhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00122220947403381929noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987252314457926314.post-79683343897284783252012-12-06T10:01:02.759-08:002012-12-06T10:01:02.759-08:00I would tell her using the same way you most often...I would tell her using the same way you most often communicate with her. If that means through a caseworker, or text message or phone call or in person. Just for consistency, so it doesn't seem disrespectful to her.Que and Brittany's Adoption Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584631461178087768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987252314457926314.post-38092802141490038322012-10-14T22:21:27.211-07:002012-10-14T22:21:27.211-07:00Our first daughter's birth mom was afraid to a...Our first daughter's birth mom was afraid to ask us in person and asked through our social worker. We didn't meet our second daughter's birth mom until months later. I told her in writing, but I'm sure she found out first through the case worker. Would you be able to do it through a third person, such as a case worker? Otherwise in writing would probably be best as to give her some time to process the news.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06216048425362222576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987252314457926314.post-34189425200477837682012-10-14T07:43:31.833-07:002012-10-14T07:43:31.833-07:00You said there were many reasons for changing- wha...You said there were many reasons for changing- what are the others? I think whatever reason is your own, but to get birth mom to understand, you might have to think of one that revolves more around the child than a family tradition that (no offense) she probably isn't going to care about. I guess I'm just saying that IF you decide to tell her, I would recommend not using the family tradition thing as a reason. I don't like to generalize but being a birth parent of a child in foster care, she is probably fairly self-centered and just wouldn't be able to accept/understand that reason. Good luck - I sure wouldn't want to have to tell either. :)Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08547529969231544833noreply@blogger.com